The Fetish Fantasy Elite 4 1/2" dildo from Pipedreamis a wonderful way to start using harnesses if you already have some experience, but it is pretty girthy. I feel like many people will be able to enjoy the shape and size. It is made of medical grade silicone, is very easy to care for, and is AWESOMELY well made. It was personally a bit too pointy and intense for me, but if you have used toys like this before and enjoyed them I would highly recommend it.